I'm not a perfect person: March 2006

you've caught me now.

50 Things you should know about guys.

1. Guys hate sluts.
2. "Hey, are you busy?" or "Are you doing something?" are two phrases guys start with to stop from stammering on the phone.
3. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
4. Before they call, guys try to plan out a little about what they're going to say so there aren't awkward pauses, but once he's on the phone he forgets it all and makes it up as he goes.
5. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
6. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.
7. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're going for the “let her complain to you and then have her realize how wonderful and nice you are” method.
8. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.
9. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.
10. Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.
11. Guys get jealous easily.
12. Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.
13. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.
14. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
15. Guys hate asking parents for money to buy girls presents. So they come up with ideas like saving their lunch money for a week. But it never works because guys are always hungry so they end up asking the parents for money anyway.
16. Girls are guys' weaknesses.
17. Guys are very open about themselves.
18. Its good to test a guy first before you trust him. But don't let him wait too long.
19. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
20. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
21. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
22. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.
23. Guys will brag about anything.
24. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. He rarely use beautiful. If a guy uses that, he likes you.
25. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.
26. Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused.
27. Any guy could write out a rulebook or advice book for flirting, but no guy can write out a book about relationships.
28. Try to be as straightforward as possible.
29. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be mature and grown up.
30. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.
31. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.
32. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
33. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.
34. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is turning inside.
35. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.
36. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
37. Guys don't really have final decisions.
38. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.
39. If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.
40. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.
41. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
42. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
43. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
44. Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.
45. Everything in moderation. Put on makeup, wear perfume. Just not too much.
46. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.
47. Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.
48. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.
49. A guy would give his left nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.
50. No guy can handle all his problems by his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it.

Scary how true some points are.

always plan ahead

What do I want in life? I’ve been asking myself this question every night since I’ve received my results last Friday. For your information, my results ain’t worth a thing much less worth any mentioning on this blog. Just to satisfy your curiosity, I managed to pass all modules and for those expecting me to retake a module or several modules, I’m sorry to disappoint you yet again.

So back to the topic, every night since I’ve received my results, I lie down and reflect on what my goals in life are. Screw the superficial targets like saving money for my driving license, shoes and clothes, you get the idea right? I’m talking about real targets, as in targets which will lead me to achieve a more comfortable life in the future, something which will enable me to lead a comfortable life not only for myself but also for my future wife and kids. I can forget about applying to study at the local university’s and the only way I’ll be getting a degree is to head to a university overseas which will cost a bomb. Just to side track a little, now those people who are just starting out their polytechnic life please study hard and achieve good GPA’s every semester unless you want to end up like me. As I was saying, heading overseas to study is no cheap option, although it’s worth considering if you won’t screw things up when you are overseas studying eg: taking drugs, partying hard and doing everything else but studying. I can bet my life that I’ll definitely dabble in at least one of the above mentioned and that’s what’s holding me back from thinking of going overseas.

National service beckons in a year’s time and some of you might be saying that this will teach me discipline which will help me while I’m overseas. I agree with this statement and I will further add that even my up bringing will help me but temptations will always be around and will I succumb to them? I guess it all boils down to self discipline and sadly it’s something which I’m lacking just a little bit. Life ain’t a bed of roses, that’s all I’ve got to say.

Looks like I’ve got to start getting serious about my life. No more fooling around. What am I saying, chances are I’m going to continue with my unhealthy lifestyle and screw things up again. Damn I seriously need to concentrate on my studies for my last two semesters in school and hopefully things will turn out good.